This article is about how to gain confidence and how to increase self-esteem. I am a person who used to be a very negative thinker, I would always believe that I would fail in whichever task I was attempting to do. I have to say that I did not really like myself and seemed to be constantly down and depressed. I have managed, however, to turn my life around and will explain in the article how I managed to do this. I hope you find it enjoyable to read.
As I was growing up through childhood into adulthood I felt that I was rather unlucky. I had a speech impediment (a stutter/stammer), a bald patch on my head which was the size of a ten-pence piece, I constantly struggled with my weight (I was basically fat) and I am quite short for a male at five foot four. I looked at other people in my community and especially my friends and felt very jealous of them. I would often think and ask myself why I had so many issues to deal with.
The problems in life which I had, especially the speech impediment seriously dented my confidence and I became a bit of a loner. I felt uncomfortable mixing in groups and always believed that people were laughing behind my back and talking about me.
I had an inner voice which I call my demons. They would be constantly talking to me, advising me to avoid situations, and to avoid taking on tasks that they said were beyond me. They made me feel very stupid and worthless. I would listen to these demons and would basically do or not do as the case may be, whatever they told me to. I agreed with them, that I was not good enough or able to take on those certain tasks. I often wondered what life would be like if only I get these horrible gremlins out of my head.
I was not happy with where my life was heading or how it had been in the past. I wanted to be successful, confident, and free from these demons.
At the age of twenty-two I decided to wage a war on these demons, a war I was determined to win. I started to read many books on self-confidence, thinking positively, and mind over matter. Progress was not exactly quick, and it took me many months to start to make any headway.
I needed to basically think more positive, be more assertive, and far more care-free. I learned that in life all you can do is to try your best. Life is very short and can end at any point, therefore I need to make the most of it and live life to the full and not as a scared rabbit, which is what I had been doing. Stressing or worrying about a situation makes it harder not easier, therefore why do I do it.
These are all easy to say and write, however, are extremely hard to implement. Implement I must, I thought. During my war, there were many battles with these horrible demons, some of which I certainly lost. I kept on talking to the demons telling them that they may have won the battle but that they will not win the war.
I did eventually win my war after quite a long period of time. I now like myself and am pleased to report that I have also overcome the speech impediment.
The main lesson that I learned is to do the opposite of what the demons tell you to. They are the devil, and they lie therefore we have to stop listening to them.